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　　“孩子我祝福你拥有不幸和痛苦”美国大法官在儿子毕业典礼上说了这番狠话。前言:7月，毕业季，家长和孩子可能听过、看过各类毕业典礼的名人演讲，被他们的话语激励。然而近日，美国联邦法院大法官John Roberts在16岁儿子的中学毕业典礼上的演讲，与这一众演讲迥然不同。

　　不同于其他毕业演讲充满正能量，给予毕业生各种鼓励、指引，Roberts竟祝愿所有毕业生承受不公、遭遇背叛、品尝孤单……但看过之后，却让人感受到了其中蕴含的温暖和智慧。

　　以下即为John Roberts受邀到儿子就读的卡迪根山中学(cardigan mountain school)的毕业典礼演讲内容。

　　同学们，在演讲之前，希望你们先为一直在背后支持你们的父母和监护人做一件事。两年、三年，或四年之前，他们送你们来到这所学校，帮你安顿妥当后，就转身默默离开了，他们或许一路含着泪，回到了家里空荡荡、孤独的房子。这对他们来说不容易，但他们知道，让你们接受教育，比他们自己的感受更重要。为了帮助你们成长，他们愿意做出牺牲，并愿意付出一切。所以，今天不只是你们的大日子，也是他们的大日子，我希望你们能站起来，转过身，为他们送上热烈的掌声。

　　好了，现在如果有人问我在卡迪根学校的演讲怎么样，我就可以说，掌声如雷，把演讲都打断了。(大家笑了，并鼓掌)

　　祝贺你们，2017届毕业生。这是你们生命中的一个重要里程碑，你们人生中的一个重要阶段已经告一段落。但我遗憾地告诉你们，这其实是你们生命里最容易的阶段(大家会心一笑)。你们就读于卡迪根山中学时，同时也是国际社会中的一员，我觉得大家尤其应当认识到这一点。

　　在向前进时，先回头看

　　现在，在全国各地的学校里，有毕业典礼的嘉宾们站在一群躁动不安的毕业生面前，说着几乎同样的话。 他们会说：It is a beginning, not an end. You should look forward. (今天只是一个开始，而不是结束。)你们应该向前看，他们说得很对。但是，如果你想弄清楚下一步方向，不妨回头看看你走过的路。

　　回想一下来到卡迪根中学的天，你也许曾感到孤独、害怕和焦虑。再看看现在你，身边满是朋友、兄弟，正信心满满地准备迎接下一阶段的教育。想一想，为什么会有这样的变化?

　　我想你们也许会感谢同学们在课堂上、运动场上、宿舍里给予的帮助。朋友的帮助，让你们不再害怕失败。你们知道了：如果失败了，你会爬起来重新来过。如果又失败，你会再来一次。如果又又又失败了，也许就是时候考虑做点别的事了(大家轰然大笑)。你们之所以走到今天，不仅是因为你们的成功，还有不惧失败的勇气。

　　愿你承受不公、遭遇背叛、品尝孤单……

　　现在，毕业典礼的演讲嘉宾照例要祝你们好运并送上祝福了。我不会这样做，让我来告诉你为什么。

　　我希望你们在未来的岁月中，不时遭遇不公对待，这样才会理解公正的价值所在。

　　愿你们尝到背叛滋味，这会教你们领悟忠诚之重要。

　　抱歉，我还希望你们时常会有孤独感，这样才不会将良朋挚友视为理所当然。

　　愿你们偶尔运气不佳，这样才会意识到机遇在人生中的地位，进而理解你们的成功并非命中注定，别人的失败也不是天经地义。

　　当你们偶尔遭遇失败时，愿你们受到对手幸灾乐祸的嘲弄，这才会让你们理解体育精神的重要性。

　　愿你们偶尔被人忽视，这样才能学会倾听。

　　愿你们感受到切肤之痛，才能对别人抱有同情心。

　　无论我怎么想，这些迟早会来临。而你们能否从中获益，取决于能否参透人生苦难传递的信息。

　　“做你自己”并非适合每个人

　　毕业典礼嘉宾们还会给出一些建议。有些很宏大，有些很实用。他们最普遍的忠告，就是“Be yourself.”(做你自己)。给一群穿着整齐划一的人提这样的建议有点奇怪(全场大笑)。不过你们确实应该做自己，但你们也要明白这句话的真正含义。

　　如果你并非足够完美，那你不应该只做你自己，而是应该努力成为的自己。人们常说“做你自己”，是因为他们希望你不要屈服于他人的意愿随波逐流。但如果你都不了解自己，你是不可能“做你自己”的。

　　古希腊哲学家苏格拉底曾说，“未经审视的人生没有意义”。对某些事而言，“Just do it”(放胆去做)也许是句金玉良言，但在你还未想明白要过怎样的人生之前，这个座右铭其实并不适用。拥有美好人生的途径，就是不要去过容易的生活。如果你从不思索生活的意义，那你很容易就会迷失自我。

　　善待遇见的每个人

　　现在再给你们一些去新学校后的建议。过去几年里，我知道你们当中年轻人，都是的青年。但你们也是享有特权的一群年轻人。即使初来此地之时你们并没有什么特权，现在你们也已经享有了比其他人的优势。我的建议是，不要表现得高人一等。

　　当你来到新学校时，见到那些扫落叶、铲雪、倒垃圾的人，走上前自我介绍，同时记住他们名字，下次见到他们记得叫他们的名字。

　　当你在路上遇见陌生人，看着他们的眼睛并微笑致意。这样做最糟糕的结果不过是，人们会记住你这个爱笑爱打招呼的年轻人，这并不是什么坏事。

　　你们之前在的学校里只有男孩，现在大多数人都将进入有女生的学校。关于这件事，我没有建议。(全场爆笑，并热烈鼓掌)

　　最后一条建议十分简单，但却会对你的人生产生重大影响：每周给人写一封信。不是电子邮件，而是真正写在纸上，只要10分钟。比如写给老师的：“从这所新学校开始。我们正在学习英语阅读“填空”。足球和足球训练都很难，但我很享受。谢谢您的教诲。” 把它放在信封里，贴上邮票寄出去。这对于那些把生命奉献给教育初中小男孩的中学老师们来讲意义非凡(爆笑)。

　　最后，我想用一段歌词来结束今天的致辞。前面，我谈到了古希腊哲学家苏格拉底，下面，我要引用的歌词来自伟大的美国哲学家Bob Dylan，他在某次旅程因思念儿子而作。

　　歌词如下

　　May God bless and keep you always,

　　愿上帝的庇护与你同在

　　May your wishes all come true,

　　愿你能够梦想成真

　　May you always do for others

　　愿你时刻帮助别人

　　And let others do for you.

　　也接受别人的恩惠

　　May you build a ladder to the stars

　　愿你可以造一把采摘繁星的云梯

　　And climb on every rung,

　　稳妥沿它而上

　　May you stay forever young,

　　愿你永远年轻

　　Forever young, forever young,

　　永远年轻，永远年轻

　　May you stay forever young.

　　愿你永远年轻

　　May you grow up to be righteous,

　　愿你长大后正直无私

　　May you grow up to be true,

　　愿你懂事时真实善良

　　May you always know the truth

　　愿你永远了解真理的方向

　　And see the lights surrounding you.

　　所到之处都有高灯明照

　　May you always be courageous,

　　愿你永远勇敢无畏

　　Stand upright and be strong,

　　坚韧不拔，意志坚强

　　May you stay forever young,

　　愿你永远年轻

　　Forever young, forever young,

　　永远年轻，永远年轻

　　May you stay forever young.

　　愿你永远年轻

　　May your hands always be busy,

　　愿你总是忙碌充实

　　May your feet always be swift,

　　愿你的脚步永远轻盈敏捷

　　May you have a strong foundation

　　愿你有一个坚强的信念，屹立不倒

　　When the winds of changes shift.

　　当暴风骤雨来临时

　　May your heart always be joyful,

　　愿你的心总是充满快乐

　　May your song always be sung,

　　愿你的歌曲能够永远被人传唱

　　May you stay forever young,

　　愿你永远年轻

　　Forever young, forever young,

　　永远年轻，永远年轻

　　May you stay forever young.

　　愿你永远年轻

　　看过John Roberts演讲内容，会让人想起麦家写给儿子一封信中的内容，当时他的儿子要前往美国去留学。在信中，他说：

　　我爱你，真想变作一颗吉星，高悬在你头顶，帮你化掉风雨，让和风丽日一直伴你前行。但这是不可能的，即便可能，对不起，儿子，我也不会这么做。为什么?因为我爱你，因为那样的话，你的人生必定是空洞的、苍白的、弱小的，至多不过是一条缸里的鱼，盆里的花，挂着铃铛叮当响的宠物。这样的话我会感到羞愧的，因为你真正失败了。你可以失败，但决不能这样失败，竟然是被太阳晒死的，是被海水咸死的，是被寒风冻死的。作为男人，这也许是莫大的耻和辱!

　　好了，就让风雨与你同舟吧，就让荆棘陪你前行吧。既然有风雨，有荆棘，风雨中不免夹着雷电，荆棘中不免埋着陷阱，作为父亲，我爱你的方式就是提醒你，你要小心哦，你要守护好自己哦。

　　John Roberts演讲中的人生智慧，麦家笔下更深沉的爱，愿孩子都能够体会，勇敢去迎接充满不确定性、充满困难与挑战的未来。愿他们知道生活不易，依然能满怀热情拥抱未来。

　　以下附演讲的英文内容。

　　Now around the country today at colleges, high schools, middle schools, commencement speakers are standing before impatient graduates. And they are almost always saying the same things. They will say that today is a commencement exercise. ‘It is a beginning, not an end. You should look forward.’

　　And I think that is true enough, however, I think if you’re going to look forward to figure out where you’re going, it’s good to know where you’ve been and to look back as well.

　　And I think if you look back to your first afternoon here at Cardigan, perhaps you will recall that you were lonely. Perhaps you will recall that you were a little scared, a little anxious. And now look at you. You are surrounded by friends that you call brothers, and you are confident in facing the next step in your education.

　　It is worth trying to think why that is so. And when you do, I think you may appreciate that it was because of the support of your classmates in the classroom, on the athletic field and in the dorms. And as far as the confidence goes, I think you will appreciate that it is not because you succeeded at everything you did, but because with the help of your friends, you were not afraid to fail.

　　And if you did fail, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, you got up and tried again. And if you failed again, it might be time to think about doing something else. But it was not just success, but not being afraid to fail that brought you to this point.

　　Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and I’ll tell you why.

　　From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted.

　　I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either.

　　And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion.

　　Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.

　　Now commencement speakers are also expected to give some advice. They give grand advice, and they give some useful tips.The most common grand advice they give is for you to be yourself.

　　It is an odd piece of advice to give people dressed identically, but you should — you should be yourself. But you should understand what that means. Unless you are perfect, it does not mean don’t make any changes.

　　In a certain sense, you should not be yourself. You should try to become something better. People say ‘be yourself’because they want you to resist the impulse to conform to what others want you to be. But you can’t be yourself if you don't learn who you are, and you can’t learn who you are unless you think about it.

　　The Greek philosopher Socrates said, ‘The unexamined life is not worth living.’ And while ‘just do it’ might be a good motto for some things, it’s not a good motto when it’s trying to figure out how to live your life that is before you. And one important clue to living a good life is not to try to live the good life. The best way to lose the values that are central to who you are is frankly not to think about them at all.

　　So that’s the deep advice.Now some tips as you get ready to go to your new school. Other the last couple of years, I have gotten to know many of you young men pretty well, and I know you are good guys. But you are also privileged young men. And if you weren’t privileged when you came here, you are privileged now because you have been here. My advice is: Don’t act like it.

　　When you get to your new school, walk up and introduce yourself to the person who is raking the leaves, shoveling the snow or emptying the trash. Learn their name and call them by their name during your time at the school.

　　Another piece of advice: When you pass by people you don’t recognize on the walks, smile, look them in the eye and say hello. The worst thing that will happen is that you will become known as the young man who smiles and says hello, and that is not a bad thing to start with.

　　You’ve been at a school with just boys.Most of you will be going to a school with girls. I have no advice for you.

　　The last bit of advice I’ll give you is very simple, but I think it could make a big difference in your life. Once a week, you should write a note to someone. Not an email. A note on a piece of paper. It will take you exactly 10 minutes. Talk to an adult, let them tell you what a stamp is. You can put the stamp on the envelope.

　　Again, 10 minutes, once a week. I will help you, right now. I will dictate to you the first note you should write. It will say, ‘Dear [fill in the name of a teacher at Cardigan Mountain School].’ Say:‘I have started at this new school. We are reading [blank] in English. Football or soccer practice is hard, but I’m enjoying it. Thank you for teaching me.’Put it in an envelope, put a stamp on it and send it. It will mean a great deal to people who — for reasons most of us cannot contemplate — have dedicated themselves to teaching middle school boys.

　　As I said, that will take you exactly 10 minutes a week. By the end of the school year, you will have sent notes to 40 people.Forty people will feel a little more special because you did, and they will think you are very special because of what you did. No one else is going to carry that dividend during your time at school.

　　Enough advice. I would like to end by reading some important lyrics. I cited the Greek philosopher Socrates earlier.These lyrics are from the great American philosopher, Bob Dylan. They’re almost 50 years old.

　　He wrote them for his son, Jesse, who he was missing while he was on tour. It lists the hopes that a parent might have for a son and for a daughter. They’re also good goals for a son and a daughter.

　　The wishes are beautiful, they’re timeless. They’re universal. They’re good and true, except for one: It is the wish that gives the song its title and its refrain. That wish is a parent’s lament. It’s not a good wish. So these are the lyrics from Forever Young by Bob Dylan:

　　May God bless you and keep you always

　　May your wishes all come true

　　May you always do for others

　　And let others do for you

　　May you build a ladder to the stars

　　And climb on every rung

　　And may you stay forever young

　　May you grow up to be righteous

　　May you grow up to be true

　　May you always know the truth

　　And see the lights surrounding you

　　May you always be courageous

　　Stand upright and be strong

　　And may you stay forever young

　　May your hands always be busy

　　May your feet always be swift

　　May you have a strong foundation

　　When the winds of changes shift

　　May your heart always be joyful

　　May your song always be sung

　　And may you stay forever young

　　Thank you.